Thursday, March 29, 2007

What is it about spring...

...that makes you just sit at your desk all day and just daydream. In school, we'd call it senior-itis. What do you call it when you've been OUT of school almost as long as you were IN school???

Yesterday I was supposed to go to the Jamie Foxx concert but, it was postponed. Kinda disappointing. I hope they reschedule it for a time when I can make it.

Remember when we took that long lunch and went to Ben's Chili Bowl? Nothing Even Matters came on the radio and we couldn't leave until we'd sung the entire song, very loud while sitting on those swirly stools? Remember when we wouldn't even have conversations with people that didn't 'get' L-Boogie?

What about a few years later when we thought that there were two kinds of people in the world...those that 'get' Jill Scott and those that don't. LOL

Remember when we'd dress up to go to happy hours because we didn't want people to know that we didn't have jobs? And how about everyone getting on our case about napping? Don't people know that stress is EXHAUSTING?! How about when we saw Boris and I had to call my mama...LOL

What about when we went to King's Dominion and you were upset because we wouldn't have time to stand in line to get on that kiddie ride...because we'd stood in line 3 times to get on Outer Limits.

How about when we went to that spot with sweater vest guy, then the next night we were at the party with Pharrell? Are you ever too old to dance on tables? Remember the way I flipped the script on Mr.NYC? Yeah, hanging with a male model is nice, but, uh, what can you do for me?

How about when any Get Rich or Die Tryin' track would instantly get our butts shakin? And how about when they stopped all of a sudden...

I can't forget about our crazy parties. How is it that we can get all these people to keep on doing all the crazy stuff that we tell them? And how crazy are we for coming up with some of those schemes?

We have definately had some good times. I've got a feeling that this is going to be another one of those years y'all. Are you ready? Oh and no faking...yep, I'm talkin to you. :-)


Monday, March 26, 2007

Life Without TV

You probably already know that I'm a TV Junkie. I wake up and turn on the TV. I get home at night and turn on the TV. The last thing I see before falling asleep is the TV. I LOVE TV and I'm not ashamed of it. (Ok, maybe I'm a wee bit ashamed at the sheer volume of TV trivia that has infiltrated my gray matter. ) So, imagine my astonishment when I met someone that NEVER watches TV.

This guy has an extra large plasma wall mounted TV and NO CABLE. WTH?? I couldn't believe it. So, of course I had questions. He said that he just doesn't want to spend the $ to get cable. Now, clearly he's not cheap. His TV was not on discount and his other accoutrements could easily garner a pretty penny on eBay. So, then, I asked, was TV banned in your house when you were a kid? Not at all.

Then, over the course of our conversations, I realized how much of what I say is peppered with pop culture references. He has no idea who Tyler Perry is, Gabriel Union who? I just got the Musiq CD. What kind of music? Nah, that's his've never heard of Musiq?

Ok, I should also mention that if this guy had ANY 'urban' radio station pre-set on his dial or black focused website favorites, he'd know some of these things. But, isn't it crazy how you can be absolutely oblivious to black pop culture if you choose it? Now, I don't think this guy is anti black. I just think his blackness might be 'inactive'. Then, I started wondering, how can this be? Or more to the point, WHY would this be?

His mom and sister are members of my sorority. Not that that would make him 'hyper black', but, I'd expect that would make him at least aware of black stuff. He said that his family regularly teases him about his obliviousness. I wanted to say to him, 'You do know that I'm black right?' LOL Lest he not realize it.

My tastes are very diverse, which is why I think we can still have stuff in common. I have all kinds of music on my iPod and I watch lots of different types of shows and I listen to a few 'non-urban' radio stations. But, my compass always swings back to black.

Wait, how did not having a TV turn into a discussion on blackness? Surely, you can be aware of things happening in our community via means other than the TV. I was just surprised that someone would not seek it out. Why do I seek it out and fight for it's integrity? I think it's because everyday I'm the only or one of less than a handful. So, in my downtime, I find comfort in the people that are like me.

The upside is that he's been unscathed by the degrading images that are rampant on my beloved TV. Maybe I need to watch less. Like any addiction, this is going to take some time because right now, I can't imagine life without TV.


Weekend Recap 3/26

This was a pretty busy weekend. When I got off on Friday, I braided my hair. It took about 8 hours. Stayed up late, got up early to finish. Now, I can look cute without thinking about my hair for a few weeks. What a relief.

Saturday was my sister's bday. We went to Kobe in White Marsh. Why am I the only one in my family that knows how to tell time?? They know how cranky I can get when I'm hungry. The reservations were at 4, everyone arrived by 6. All that aside, the dinner was excellent. I think lil sis had fun. Afterwards we went to the movies to see Shooter. I really wanted to see Pride or Reign Over Me. But, it wasn't my birthday. Shooter was really good...and looooong. At one point, I had to look at my phone to see how much time had passed. It was never boring, just long. If you like the Bourne series, you'll like this movie. In this pic, Marky Mark has a little bit of McGyver in him, which adds a little bit of interest. Overall, I'd recommend it.

Yesterday, I went to the Smithsonian, specifically, the Asian Museum and the Museum of Industrial Stuff :-) It was a beautiful day, why not take in some art? The next time I'll work my way through the rest of the museums. This has been on my list of things to do for a very long time.

I made a pact with myself that I'd get out and do something on my list each weekend, even if I have to do it solo. Luckily, I have had company recently. But, I know I'd still do it if I didn't.

Can you believe March is over this week? I have to start planning my Memorial Day activity. I'll check back in later this week. Enjoy the sun.


Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Quote for Today

this is resonating with me today...

In every relationship, the person least interested in maintaining it, will control it.
Because they won’t compromise.

Spoken by Rooster in Idlewyld


Monday, March 19, 2007

I Think I Love My Wife

So, I went to see this movie on Saturday. For the most part I liked it. In case you haven't seen the previews, this movie is about a man in his early to mid 30s, Chris Rock, that is very bored with his life. He's married to a beautiful, smart woman, Gina Torres, but he want's excitement.

Surely we can all relate to the grass being greener on the other side. Chris Rock's 'grass' is in the form of Kerry Washington. Her character, Nikki, is sexy, exciting and full of drama. Men always say they don't want drama, but, when the Nikki's of the world call, they inevitably go running. While hanging out with Nikki he gets careless at his job, gets his @ss kicked and causes trouble at home. The premise to this movie is a good one. The music isn't bad either.

My main complaint is that Chris decides to use the N-Word many times in the movie and it's spoken by a few different characters. I'll never understand the argument to use the word. But, putting that aside, his use of the word in this movie seemed really out of place. I expect to hear it in The Wire. I don't expect to hear it in the remake of a French movie called Chloe in the Afternoon.

My date felt that Chris's character's actions were unrealistic in the chase of Nikki. He really goes out of his way and jeopardizes many important things in his life. I, on the other hand, didn't think it was that unrealistic. I've seen men do some pretty stupid things while chasing 'the pussetta'. (Of course, women do stupid things too to get with a man. But, this movie wasn't about that. So chill out!)

I won't tell the ending because I don't want to ruin it for anyone. I'll just say that it was very 'different'. When you see it, let me know what you think.


Wednesday, March 14, 2007


I still listen to Aijuswanaseing, Juslisen and Soulstar regularly. In case you've been living under a rock, those are the titles of Musiq Soulchild's first 3 CD's. He always debuts a CD with a shiny happy song about a girl that he's just met and is trying to get to know. I like his music because he has a good mix of tender she's-the-one-and-i-love-her songs and we-just-met-lets-have-fun songs. Even though in some songs he's been a little bit of a player....Remember the video where the two girls confront him at the club. LOL I never feel like he's disrespecting women. He has a kind of charisma that makes you say, 'Oh he's so crazy' instead of 'I'mma cut his @ss.'

Well, the new CD Luvanmusiq came out yesterday. If you listened to the Steve Harvey show this morning then you probably heard several of the tracks. Musiq was a guest on the show and Steve featured the CD throughout the program. I downloaded it yesterday. I can say that it's typical Musiq. If I were doing his performance review, I'd say he definately Meets Expectations. He doesn't really push it though. But, I'm not complaining. Consistency is good.

So, check out the CD for yourself and let me know what you think...


ETA: My favorite song on the CD is Track 4 - Betterman. I just love this song. It's catchy, upbeat and what woman doesn't want to hear a man say that she's made him want to be a better man. Gotta love that!

Monday, March 12, 2007

Daylight Savings 07

They should rename Daylight Savings Time to Lose Sleep Time. As much as I love the longer hours of daylight, I absolutely hate losing any kind of sleep. But, this morning, my quick-fire snooze trigger could be attributed to the action packed weekend I had.

I spent the weekend in New York. We went up there to catch The Color Purple (TCP) but, managed to get in some sightseeing and a wee bit of shopping. (Oh, that New Year's resolution about no more shopping was broken a while ago. :-)) We made our plans just a few weeks ago so, finding a hotel in the city was next to impossible. Actually, finding a suitable hotel (I'm acknowledging my bougie-ness) at a suitable price (and my cheapness) was the challenge. So, we stayed in NJ this time. My exposure to the NY Transit system has been limited at best, but, after this weekend, you may as well call me J-Lo b/c I'm all about the 6. I was even giving other people directions. LOL 'Oh you need to get uptown, to 51st? You can take the 4 or 5, the 6 will put you at Grand Central.' Y'all know all I need is a little bit of knowledge about a thing and I'm all geeked to share it.

So, what did I buy? I got these really cute shoes (surely you're not surprised). They're really understated. No obvious logo and a pretty caramel color and I haven't seen them at the Lacoste store here or anyplace else for that matter. You know I got a great deal b/c I was at Century 21. I also got one of those big purses and some tank/undies combos. A girl can't have enough of those. I really wanted to hit Bloomies b/c they just started this new Brow Bar. You can go and get your eyebrows done on the spot. And it's only $21. Lawd knows these caterpillars crawling on my face need some taming. But, we didn't have time to make it up there. We did eat at the Brooklyn Diner. That was the best food I've had in a very long time, but the dessert was not stellar at all.

TCP was very good. We had great seats. I guess I must be the only person that didn't know it was a musical. I mean, I knew there would be singing. But, for the first 30 minutes, I was like, 'is anybody going to talk in this thing?' And what's with making everyone line up outside? It's not like it's a general admission event. Why couldn't we just file in and take our seats as we arrived? I didn't get that.

By the time I got back last night, it was already 11pm. I was too tired for words, I could barely drag myself into the bed. So, you can imagine how disgruntled I was to have to wake up an hour earlier this morning.

Friday, March 02, 2007

Rough Week

I've been dealing with these crazy, self absorbed, ineffectual, dim-witted fools all week and it's darn near driving me nuts!

But today is Friday, so, I can finally relax.

My mantra for the week has been...

Mediocrity is threatened by excellence.

All week, I've been getting push back from my client on this project. She is absurdly change resistant and creates processes that make her life easy, versus getting the job done right. When I ask her to review something it takes her a week to do it. But, when she gives me her feedback she expects 1 hour turn around.


My bad, that was the sound of me giving her an open handed slap in the mouth for making such a stupid request.

Remember in the show Ally McBeal when Ally would have these little imaginary moments where she'd react to a situation? Well, I've been having those little moments all week.

Doesn't this woman know, that like my favorite NASCAR driver Ricky Bobby, "I wake up in the morning and piss excellence" ? LOL

I can't apologize for challenging her, it's hard being mediocre when you know better.

Oh well, that's my rant...thanks for listening.

In closing I'll just say a little prayer...

I would like to thank you sweet innocent precious little baby Jesus for getting me through the week.

Shake & Bake!